Ever been in a situation whr u've been so badly wanna be accepted by others? come on lahh, im pretty sure we've all been thr. Besides, it's an almost unexplainable social behavior, tht we're willin' to go out of our way to make sure it happens. thr're some ppl willin' to talk up their jobs, partners & social lives, & bend th truth to ensure they were viewed +vely by others. They said it's not exactly lyin', just a case of tryin' too hard to fit in. Is it? Well, for me, it's very common for ppl to act in ways they think will make 'em more likeable, but, thr must be a limit of it. cus, deviatin' too far from ur true personality can threaten u, urself! No doubt, everyone wants to be liked, & both men & women change th way they act to seek approval. Especially from th opposite sex. But, be aware of how to adapt ur personality to suit different environment. If u make fittin' in ur highest priority not only do u run a risk of being exposed as a FAKE, u may also find urself actin' in ways tht compromise ur values!
What do you think about adapting not for the sake of adapting to the environment only, but also with that environment (as a factor) in mind? it may seems similar to lots of people out there. So let me narrow it down..
ReplyDeleteChanging, shifting or transforming into something better so that we're more acceptable, likable or looked not out-of-place is never a bad idea, AS LONG AS, i repeat, AS LONG AS, it is a long-term fix, that you really mean/meant it, committed to it. That you're not feeling like you're making some sacrifices. And importantly, you won't regret them. (That's how life operates actually. Evolution is the term commonly referred to.) Sometimes, a person change so that people around them become happier. That person may not become more likable, yet it brings more happiness to others.
"..thr must be a limit of it. cus, deviatin' too far from ur true personality can threaten u"
Yupp..you've got to have your limit. 'Coz beyond the limit must be a zone you'd call HYPOCRISY. But you won't know the limit 'till you've touch it. We can only be more vigilant and that's all.
Last but not least, if you ask me, ideally, I would love to do the best in everything I do, every possible moment, 'coz you won't know what might happen next. Most of the time, I just can't do it no matter how hard I try. But, at least, I could take heart that, I've tried the best I could, even if it might not be good enough to someone else. Trust me, you don't want to live in regret.
very the true!!! agree with u babe..
ReplyDeletelike what u said, "a person change so that people around them become happier. That person may not become more likable, yet it brings more happiness to others"... but, i wonder why ppl around us didn't notice that and they didn't even apprcte it. weird, uh?
"..like what u said, "a person change so that people around them become happier. That person may not become more likable, yet it brings more happiness to others"... but, i wonder why ppl around us didn't notice that and they didn't even apprcte it. weird, uh?.."
ReplyDeleteI wonder why? Maybe the change is insignificant? But how many changes do we need to make in order to make a different yet never cross the boundary? We can only tried our very best.
ermmmmm..... got it! like wat zya always told me " KITA TIDAK BOLEH PUASKAN HATI SEMUA ORG KAN" .. now i undrstnd y..hihi
ReplyDeleteExactly..that's why we don't have our fingers on the same lenght.
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